clueless

I'm not gonna lie, I'm clueless when it comes to guys. They confuse the heck out of me and I just don't understand how their brains work. I'm sure that's even more true for guys being baffled by our female complexities. That's why its so interesting to me that God set up life the way He did. He purposely made men and women on different wavelengths and said "Ok, now get along!"

Last night I learned an interesting thing about those Y chromosomes while on a group TWIRP date. Some of the Taylor and West University Apt RA girls TWIRPed (The Woman Is Required to Pay) some Agee RAs and took them to this restaurant called Pops, which featured hundreds of different sodas in glass bottles.

It was a long wait for food, but it was a lot of fun hanging out all together. The plan was then to go see Lion King in 3D but the times got a little mixed up so we ended up at Starbucks at Bricktown for a couple hours. It was there that I learned something new about guys. I was sitting on the arm of a big leather chair that my dear friend Mandi was occupying. Three out of the five guys offered me their chair at different times, but I politely declined opting for my comfortable leather perch. I thought it was sweet that they offered but I honestly was quiet ok where I was. After the third gentleman asked, Evan ever so politely informed me that when guys ask "Would you like this chair?" it's not really a question, but more of a "Here, take my chair." It is considered impolite if you decline the chair, because it takes away from their male responsibilities and they feel guilty. Now I don't know if every guy would agree with his understanding of giving a lady your chair, but I had no idea that's how some guys saw it. I quickly turned to Jon who had been the last one to have offered and said "Yes, I would please like a chair". He laughed and gave me his, bringing over another for himself.

Girls often complain about guys not stepping up and being men, I am guilty of this myself, but what yesterday taught me was sometimes we don't let them be men.  When a gentlemen offers you a chair or opens a door for you, don't take that for granted. They are being kind and if we as sisters in Christ don't give them affirmation that we appreciate the little things, how do we expect them to know how we like to be treated?